Okay, so I feel really compelled to make sure that my intentions for my last post "keeping up with the Jones" are clear. The post was merely a reflection of my own realization that I need to learn to be content in my own situation and open my eyes to all the great things that surround me instead of feeling jealous or bitter about people who appear to have more.
So, I was in no way trying to passive aggressively cut down or criticize people in situations that are different from ours. Let me try to cover all my bases here. There is nothing wrong with driving a new car- nothing. It's great and exciting. What is wrong is me being envious of other people's new cars when I have two great cars sitting in my garage. There is also no blame nor anything wrong with people living in nice new houses or going on fancy vacations. The problem is when I look at those things and take for granted our own wonderful home, the memories we have here, and how hard Ryan works to keep it looking great and making the payments. The problem is when I start to feel envious of other people's vacation plans and forget the great trips we took to WI, Fl, Breckenridge and Arizona just this past year.
I do not think, in any way, that people who make tons of money love their families any less. I was just angry at myself for thinking more about things than the great people around me. I have absolutely no problem with anyone who has a trust fund or is wealthy for any other reason. That doesn't make them selfish or greedy or bad in any way. I am the one that is greedy for wanting more.
As I have said many times before, I have nothing against moms who go back to work. Nothing at all. I think they work really hard and struggle with all sorts of guilt and time management and things I am not even aware of. Some moms go back because they need to, others because they want to and I think either reason is great. There is no perfect way to raise and take care of a family. I apologize profusely if my last blog made it sound as if I was being condescending to moms who worked. I just meant to say that I need to be thankful of the fact that I wanted to stay home and Ryan's job allows me to do that. I need to realize that many women would love to be in my position.
I was not trying to cut anyone down who receives extravagant gifts from parents. It's great to have someone help take care of you and spoil you. I was just pointing out how much I overlook in my own life. Not only do our parents spend tons of quality time with us, they also spoil us. They helped us through college debt- free, they helped us purchase our first cars cars, they come help us with house projects and babysitting needs. We hardly had to buy anything when Coranelle was born because we got so many great hand-me-downs and gifts. Really, I was just saying that we have it really, really good and I am too busy comparing to notice.
There will always be someone out there with more, with nicer things, but I really wanted to point out that most of have some pretty great things going for us. So, please don't think I was pointing my finger at anyone, saying they are living their lives wrong and not valuing the right things. I was merely admitting to my own selfish thoughts and my frequent inability to appreciate all the great things around me.
2 comments:
i'm sorry that you felt the need to clarify...i thought your last post was prefectly clear and spot on, though that could just be because i struggle with a lot of the same feelings myself.
merry christmas, sweet girl!
When your life, your heart and your blog is an open book, you take such chances. As a fellow blogger who wears his emotions and thoughts on his sleeve (and on his blog), I understand - that is, as much as a man is capable of understanding an intelligent, talented pregnant woman (or any other woman) ☺.
The roles you are currently playing in life will touch many lives and hearts for years to come. Know that you are loved and appreciated by us and by many others.
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